What are the
most powerful forces in the universe?
Some would argue they are the instincts to self preservation and species
preservation. So next to the need to
keep oneself alive, our sexuality presents a powerful presence.
Why do we speak of a “battle of the sexes”?
We talk about this tension because
our very differences ignite the air around us!
Some would call it a vibrant complementarity others call it a fight for
power. Either way, the differences
between masculinity and femininity have led to joy as well as tears.
(This is
merely a blog post, so I won’t be able to expound fully, but feel free to
engage the conversation in the comments section.)
Because
women have not been understood by men, (we think differently, act differently,
operate differently), many civilizations of men have suppressed women to the status
level of a slave or a child. Even in the
United States, only 120 years ago, women were as property that men owned. Her wages, should she work, would be the
right of her father or her husband.
This, clearly, is an injustice.
That is just one example; you could find plenty similar examples (even
in some cultures today) where women are second class citizens just because of
their sex.
Yet, during
all these situations, men still desire women, though they don’t understand
them. Women were used, in some cases, as
a means for men’s sexual release and nothing more. Women, rightfully, began to rise up. They saw the injustices; they saw the
belittlement of women and men walking away from sexual encounters without a
care. They sought to bring
equality.
But
sexuality is powerful, and a taste of power
can fan a lust for power. Instead of
preaching feminine virtues of modesty and self-control, some of these women
took the game of the battle of the sexes and flipped it on its head. They didn’t change the game to include women,
they played by men’s rules and swapped the roles. Men had gained power by using sexuality to
dominate; so they desired the same right.
Without thought of what it would do to femininity, they seized the power
and ran with it. Drunk in the
untouchable power of “the protection of women” stance, they could influence
every aspect of society. Enjoying their
status (regardless that it was earned through masculine definitions of
domination and power), they heralded the sexual revolution.
Strip off
the protection of modesty and “archaic” ideas!
In fact, strip off everything and let’s have fun! Far from raising women to a place of
equality, we have lowered them to the base level of “if it feels good, do it”. Women are the moral compass of society, as
women are respected, there lies the level of the society. But what does this radical view do to the
next generation? Where does it leave
future women…and what about future little girls? (again, so much more could be said here, but
space does not allow…)
What do we
have today?
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| Lolo Jones |
A young US Olympian, Lolo Jones, announces she is a virgin and plans to save herself for marriage. She becomes public enemy #1. How ridiculous
could she be? How idiotic! Doesn’t she know no one does that
anymore? She has been attacked on so
many levels and yet, she holds her own.
Why is a young woman who chooses to show self-restraint now the enemy? Because if the idea gets into people’s heads
on a national level, it will put a huge crack in that pedestal of power they
have created.
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| 1st Place - 6.78 - US Open 28 January 2012 - Madison Square Garden, New York |
Yet, we are
holding on to this political power at what expense? Young girls are encouraged to be promiscuous,
because “they’ll do it anyway”, but here’s a condom to keep you “safe”. Were our minds, souls meant to live this
way? What about addiction? Are the sex education courses in our public
schools which promote “safe sex” creating a generation of sex addicts? When a person is addicted to something are
they ever really free to live a normal life?
Young girls,
just beginning to develop and completely insecure in who they are as persons,
let alone women, are almost pushed into these relationships by peer pressure
and no adult back-up. Why can’t we
encourage respect and self control? Why
let our little girls go through situations that will scar their psyche for
life. Waiting to engage in sexual
intercourse until one is married is not a burden that chains you down, it is a
path to freely live a happy, healthy sexual life without scars, without blame.
It is the freedom & equality, not power, that we
should truly seek.
Well, that’s
my view of it and I welcome yours!
(Please leave comments below!)
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Wow, SO awesome to see people talk about this publicly. Kudos to Lolo. People are stupid and are attacking her for her decision, but she's the one who is not going to be broken on her wedding day. You go girl!
ReplyDeleteI so agree! She's on twitter too! @lolojones
Delete"Even in the United States, only 120 years ago, women were as property that men owned. Her wages, should she work, would be the right of her father or her husband. This, clearly, is an injustice." Don't you mean to say that this "was" an injustice? Seeing as this is not the case in the current American day and age of course.
ReplyDeleteFrom the voice of Derek Jarman,"Understand that sexuality is as wide as the sea.Understand that your morality is not law.Understand that we are you.Understand that if we decide to have sex whether safe,safer, or unsafe,it is our decision and you have no rights in our lovemaking."
ReplyDelete~Lisa Gibson.